The Thin Line Series – #1 – Self Assertion and Rudeness

 

Many of us use our self assertion as a tool to get heard or to make a point or to force an opinion. Quite a many of us become very good on exerting assertion.

Some of us do it because our ingrained personalities and beliefs  Other do it becase noise factors in today’s corporate make in mandatory. Listening is not a common quality in majority of corporate denizens today, so assertion becomes a tool, which is used by many of us.

Whatever be the reason, good or bad, mandated or by nature, there is a fine line between self assertion and rudeness, that is not to be crossed. In the rush of discussion, I have found  that many times this line is crossed. On more often than not, this line is crossed inadvertantly, than intentionally. Actually a lot of time even the realization that we have crossed the line does not come to us, unless someone draws our attention to it.

We tend to cross this line often because of several and various reasons. After a while this tendency overshadows over natural self and starts becoming part of our behavioral traits. Rudeness, creeping into our behavioral traits, is surely concerning.

Rudeness of any form, in any forum, to any audience is never taken in positive spirits and lights. It hinders our ability to make clear and concrete points. It also limits our ability to communicate naturally. Rudeness also has some very dark side effects (other than not being able to make proper points). These side effects are related to – developing relationship complexities, negative interpretations of opinions, etc.

So, we got to make sure that do nor cross the fine line, which is there between self assertion and rudeness. The line is fine but differences between the world on both sides are huge and they are in stark contrast to each other.

Let’s take time, identify that line and make sure that we do not cross it.